Travel nightmares like cancelled flights, flight delays, mechanical issues, winter storms and lightening unfortunately happen from time to time. While on a recent business trip to New York City, I received a text and email messages from United Airlines stating that there might be a travel disruptions due to weather. As a result, United was waiving change fees to provide travelers with additional flexibility. My colleague and I were booked on the 7:15 p.m. evening flight but definitely did not want to be stuck in NYC during the unexpected winter storm. We tried to change our flight online to the afternoon departure, but the only options available were for the following day, when the storm was predicted to be at its worst. After waiting on hold for a United Airlines customer representative for over 30 minutes, I learned that the only way to possibly fly standby on the full 3:15 pm flight was to inquire at Newark Airport.
My travel companion was impressed with how my “savvy traveler” skills scored us the standby seats, but I assured her that I did not utilize any specialized knowledge. Instead, I just made sure to be nice while navigating through Newark. It is important to recognize that not every representative has the ability to make a specific change; however, each representative may be able to lead me to someone who can help. And, customer service representatives are far more likely to help kind travelers as opposed to unpleasant ones, even when there is a valid issue.

When dealing with travel disruptions, try to remember these five things:
- #1: Be kind: This is the most essential travel rule.
- #2: Recognize limitations: Not all airline employees have the authority to make every kind of change but may be able to direct travelers to someone who can help.
- #3: Phrase requests as questions: I find it helpful to ask questions like, “Is this a full flight?” or “Is it possible…?” rather than, “I want….” or “I need….”
- #4: Be patient: Some waiting is inevitable in any travel disruption situation.
- #5: Travel with carry on luggage whenever possible: It is much easier to accommodate a last-minute travel change if checked luggage is not involved.
Travel disruptions are no fun for anyone, but making travel adjustments can make them less painful.
Check out our other Travel Tips for more advice about traveling with kids.
